A Better Way To Divorce
Many people think divorce is based on anger and a desire for revenge, but in my decades of legal practice, I have found that the most basic emotion in divorce is fear. People who are going through divorce don’t know what their future is going to look like, and they are afraid that they are going to be left without the resources they need.
When people are scared, they instinctively have a fight-or-flight reaction. When you are going through a divorce, you try to flee by going into denial about what is happening, or you may get aggressive, trying to get what you can out of the divorce. Indeed, with the help of a skilled divorce attorney, you can fight for what you need in property division, child custody, visitation rights and more.
However, sometimes fighting is not the best way to go. Often, fighting just drags out the process longer and makes it nastier than it needs to be, whether at trial or in out-of-court negotiations. This can be especially destructive in divorces where the parties have children. For that and other reasons, mediation can provide a much better way to divorce.
Mediation is a form of dispute resolution in which the parties negotiate a solution with the help of a neutral third party known as a mediator. Unlike an arbitrator or judge, a mediator does not take sides or issue a decision. Rather, the mediator facilitates the negotiations, and guides them toward agreement.
I have more than 30 years of experience as a lawyer, and with my law practice, Mark H. Henderson LLC, in Stamford, Connecticut, I still help clients defend their rights and fight for their futures in criminal defense and other matters. As a mediator, however, my role is different; I cut through the fear and other emotions clouding divorce negotiations, so that you can reach a better settlement.